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Social media (Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, etc) have come to stay and there’s no doubt about it. They have become the biggest platforms most people meet, which have in one way or the other limited physical human interactions. Relationships are being made and friendships are being solidified on social media. Millennials have been able to utilize social media alongside introducing the older generation to its’ wonders and setbacks. I fell in love with social media since my discovery of it and was able to diversify my love for it into an employable skill at some point.

Over the years, I have made really good friends on these platforms and I have also been able to do business with these platforms. One of the many success stories of social media is the marriage between Music producer/Artiste Banky W and his wife Actor Adesua because they met in the DMs ( Direct Message). As a young lady, I have particularly received numerous direct messages from the opposite sex but the manner and way they come as either made them become my good friends or just ignore them all the same. This is a post I have been wanting to write for a while to help both sexes know how to approach anyone on social media from my numerous experiences and I am happy I get to finally do this.

NOTE: So one thing you might not know is once someone receives a message from a user they are not following it automatically pops up under a tiny category named others/requests. For me, I particularly go through the senders’ profile before I respond to the message (don’t blame this is just my normal practice).


One thing you shouldn’t do is slide into someones DM with a sense of entitlement. Again note this, if this person isn’t following you, your message pops up under the category others/request and this person might not notice this tiny display on time. This particular habit gets me angry because you don’t even know me and I have a choice to respond to your messages or not.


For some people, courtesy has been thrown out the window. Imagine sending a message to someone without even greeting them (again don’t get me wrong, if you guys are cool that is very fine but if you aren’t, well!). A basic example of being courteous is how you will relate to your colleague at work. Or better still simply say Hello or Hi.


This gets on my nerves a 100 percent every time. Please drop the Boo’s, Dear’s, Sweetheart’s, Baby’s etc and be civil. Again this person doesn’t even know you. For me, I am partially ok with this if we are of the same sex, so far you don’t come off as if you are trying to woo me, but from the opposite sex, it’s a big NO.


Just like in a networking session in an event, start the conversation with something you both have in common. Before sliding into that DM you must have been noticing the person posts. If not, you can probably look through the persons’ profile to find a common ground/what you share in common to kick off the conversation. Sometimes kicking off the conversation with compliments doesn’t play the trick. And by the way, the normal tell me about yourself is old and outdated.


If you have come this far, then sending a message in abbreviation isn’t a good impression. Maybe some 5 years ago abbreviations were cool to me but right now I see it as a lazy man’s way of writing. Also, this short forms might mean another thing entirely to the other person.



This is one thing that infuriates me the most on social media most especially on Facebook. If you haven’t spoken to me in years, why tag me on posts that are none of my business.  If it is just once, I agree you might need my help but if it becomes incessant without an explanation from you the tagger (a word I just created), then it is so not cool.

With all of these mentioned above, I have got nothing but love for all my followers and friends on social media and I will want you to make meaning impressions and friends while connecting on social media.

Again thanks for stopping by and Love lives here.

Until next time lovelies.

Tutu geh 1

What are your thoughts on this post? Do you think I missed anything important about social media etiquette? Let’s discuss in the comment section below.


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  • Debs
    May 28, 2018

    We share the same sentiments especially with tagging on Facebook. I always untag myself plus my privacy settings won’t even allow it show on my page.

    You’ve raised salient points and I think everyone need to read this👌

    • 'FUNKE
      May 28, 2018

      Hey Debs!
      I did the same too; I had to go the extra mile to set up my privacy settings but another thing is I also have to allow the relevant ones show on my page. Whew! If only we all did things right🤷🏻‍♀️. Thanks for stopping by the blog dear and also dropping your thoughts on the post. I really appreciate it ❤️

  • Vanessa
    May 28, 2018

    Tutu, I agree with all the points you’ve raised. If you feel like you’re entitled, I won’t respond, if you tag me in posts I’m not interested in, I’ll untag myself, If you use those endearing words (opposite sex only), I’ll ignore you. If it turns out you hate typing your words in full, sorry we’re done chatting, I really find it difficult keeping up with so many abbreviations just the way I didn’t know what MIA meant until recently 😂

    • 'FUNKE
      May 29, 2018

      Hey Vanessa, you are just like me. There’s no time to waste time. And it’s good you know what MIA is now, mine was IKR: I know right😂. Thanks for stopping by the blog and dropping your thoughts on the post. I really appreciate it ❤️.

  • rajanisingh885721172
    July 22, 2018

    Please read my first post.