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LIFE| LIVING WITH AN AFRICAN MOTHER.

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The other day, I was sharing a banter with my mum and thought about writing a blog post to share with everyone what living in a typical African home is and most especially what it feels like to have an African mother in my case a Yoruba mother. Some days after, I was on Instagram and I saw someone share a post about an earring and what her African mother and mother in law will think about the earring in the caption and it was so apt and similar to what mine would say. So I figured this post was a must write for me so Africans who wants to relish memories can and also Non-Africans who wants to know what it feels like to live with/ have an African mother.

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EVERYTHING IS USUALLY LINKED TO THE SPIRITUAL.

There is hardly anything that isn’t translated to the spiritual by my mum. I can remember vividly the superheroes like Spiderman, Batman and the rest were demonic to my mum. And if you are wondering why I don’t like teddy bears like most girls, it is thanks to my mum; she claimed evil spirits can possess the dolls so it is a NO in her home.

GROCERY LIST.

An African mothers grocery list is always similar to her last. There are some things that must always be on her grocery list every month even it is in excess already. For my mum, in every grocery list, she must include Bath tissue, Potatoes, Bathing Soap, Toothpaste and Vegetable oil (her favorite). It is a MUST because she claims having these items in excess won’t hurt anyone and isn’t a bad idea.

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VERY OPINIONATED.

African mothers are conceitedly assertive and dogmatic in their opinions. And they will always want you to go by their opinions a 100%. There is this proverb in Yoruba that “What an elder sees while sitting, the young cannot see it even if they climb the tallest tree” they always use it to support their point.

WEIGHTLOSS JOURNEY.

African mothers from the size 14 upwards are always trying to lose weight. My mum has been on her weight loss journey since I was old enough to know her as my mother. She taught me my first set of aerobics/exercise. But she still hasn’t lost so much weight to me because she is still a loyal buyer of size 16/18 clothes.

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LIFE OF THE PARTY.

They are the life of the party. They are most effective if it is their friends’ party or so. They will be the first to get there to ensure all preparations are in top gear and will be the last to leave the venue of the party. Need I say they also buy or make souvenirs for these parties. And they know the latest songs released by popular artiste thanks to the information gotten from their children.

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REPEATING THE SAME WORDS.

I recently realized that the older my mum is getting she would just always want you to repeat the same words over and over again even if you just said it some minutes ago to be double sure. The other day, she was watching a video of Kiss Daniel perform and I said that’s Kiss Daniel performing, some minutes later she said who is this performing and I answered her, then some minutes after that she said ehn, who sang this song? At this point, I am like Mummy!!!

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QUEEN OF RANTS.

The typical Sanguine/Choleric African mother rants (it’s in few cases they aren’t sanguine/choleric). They rant about anything and everything, don’t just mess with them. So today, my mum thought she misplaced her purse and started looking for it; me being the one who saw the purse with her last started searching everywhere, but my brother sat down and kept asking logical questions, she became furious because my brother didn’t get up and she just started ranting, we later found the purse in the car. By the way, I am used to her rants now but I try as much as possible to avoid it.

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LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY.

African mothers protect their children (biological, foster and spiritual) like the mother hen and go all the way for them. They don’t care whatever it takes, so far their children’s happiness is involved, they will do it. I remember when I was in high school and I wanted to travel to the UK for summer, she didn’t have the money at hand but she knew I wanted to go, so she went out of her way to get the money, I later realized it wasn’t worth it and that money will be needed as a freshman in the University.

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DISCIPLINARIAN(S).

Going back memory lane, I remember how my mum used to beat/slap me silly. At some point, I started thinking she wasn’t my mother because she just didn’t spare the rod. but guess what? I am better off today because of her beatings and I am super grateful to her for beating sense into me but then it felt too much. Let me add that age slows them down a whole lot also.

TRENDS.

My African mum never wants to be regarded as a woman who doesn’t know what’s trending at any point in time. From the news to politics to fashion and the list is endless.  She will ask whats trending from me and my brother and also search for it on the internet. That’s why we have the same set of clothes in different sizes and we work out together. She recently just joined Instagram and she has been disturbing the whole house.

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You just got to love an African mum. They just make life a lot more interesting and fun. I love my African mum just the way she is and wouldn’t have it any other way.

***N.B: This post was 100% written based on my relationship with my SanChlor (Sanguine and Choleric temperament) mother who belongs to the Yoruba tribe in Nigeria. It is in no way a form of discrimination against any other tribe in Africa or race in general.

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Does your African mum do any of these things? And what are the other things I didn’t talk about? I will be in the comment section. 

 

XOXO
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16 Comments
  • Demi
    January 22, 2018

    There is thing my African mum…Yoruba to be precise does when she gets a new phone…like I have to teach her how to operate it over and over again and you dare not complain

    • 'FUNKE
      January 22, 2018

      My mum tried such but I and my brother just wasn’t having any of it. Or if she wants you to teach her something new and we don’t answer her quickly she starts ranting about us feeling too big. African mothers are a handful. Dear Demi thanks for stopping by the blog, going further to drop your thoughts on the post and also following the blog. I really appreciate it.

  • Dejmanaman
    January 22, 2018

    Laudable African mother(s) aptly portrayed. Nice post!

    • 'FUNKE
      January 22, 2018

      Thank you Deji. I just had to share all about my life with my African mum. She makes living life a little more interesting. Thanks for stopping by the blog dear. I really appreciate it.

  • Pade Olapoju
    January 22, 2018

    In conclusion, African Mums (and dads too) rock. You are better off with them

    • 'FUNKE
      January 22, 2018

      I sure agree with you a 100 percent 😁😁😁. Thanks for stopping by the blog sir and also dropping your thoughts on the post. I really appreciate it sir

  • Abimbola Orebe
    January 23, 2018

    Chai!Funke,this post is soo about my mum except for the workout part..lol..My mum”s spiritual link to everything is on another level. Plus she just joined Facebook recently and anytime anyone of us goes to visit her now, she asks the same question “bawo Le se n se kini yin yi na?(how do you guys go about this your thing?) Despite the fact that she”s been sending and accepting friend request to every Tom dick and harry unknown to her.
    About hammering on same thing, my mum is also a champion, so when she starts this her act and you say”but mummy e ti so kini yi tele now”(but mummy you’very said this thing before now),she goes “gbenu e sohun”(shut up your mouth) lol..
    African mums rock joor👊👊

    • 'FUNKE
      January 24, 2018

      😁😁😁. It’s so funny how African mums behave alike even with the age difference. Yes African mums rock big time 👊👊. Thank you for stopping by the blog, going further to drop your thoughts on the post and also following the blog. I really appreciate it ma.

  • Deihlar Musa
    January 26, 2018

    Hilarious and soooo true!
    My mother will side 100% with her daughters’,but then side her sons against her daughters inlaw!

    • 'FUNKE
      January 28, 2018

      Deihlar take it or take it African mothers will go all out for their children 😄. Thanks for stopping by the blog and also dropping your thoughts on this post. I really appreciate and hope you come by again.

  • Betty
    January 27, 2018

    Well done Tutu. You just described me and my mum before me and my older sisters too. We are all the same with very slight variations. African mum’s rock big time! Pls keep the tradition, let generations after us be blessed in Jesus name!

    • 'FUNKE
      January 28, 2018

      Hey Betty! I just recently discovered the similarities despite our variations. And yes African mums rock!!! Amen. Thanks for stopping by the blog and also sharing your thoughts on the post. I really appreciate it and hope you come by again.

  • Julie
    January 27, 2018

    Hey tutu, you just described my mum especially with repeating the same words. Lol
    After giving an explanation of something that happened in the day, she would start allover by asking what i had clearly stated. so I’m like Mummy! But I said xyz earlier.
    African mums ehhn 😁😁 we love them nevertheless.

    • 'FUNKE
      January 28, 2018

      Hey Julie! We just got to love our African mum. Thanks for stopping by the blog and also sharing your thoughts on the post. I really appreciate it and hope you come by again.

  • stitchadress
    January 28, 2018

    The opinionated thing is what drives me crazy and sometimes I just look without saying a word when she’s dishing out the orders in the name of advice… cheers to African mums.

    http://www.stitchadress.blogspot.com

    • 'FUNKE
      January 28, 2018

      Hey girl!!! Laughing so hard at the orders in the name of advice 😄. Cheers to African mums; you just got to love them. Thanks for stopping by the blog and sharing your thoughts on the post. I really appreciate it and hope you come by again.